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google.com : "how to deal with unrequited feelings" [[3 steps to to get over an unrequited crush->list]] [[forums: do i tell him?->forum]] [[why we feel unrequited love->deep]]

(([[he's->list]] my best friend))

((i'm [[his->list]] best friend))

((i live a full life outside of [[him->list]] and it still hurts))

[[ < ->start]] 3 Steps To Get Over an Unrequited Crush 1) Realize that you're only seeing him for an ideal you've projected. You don't really [[know->know]] him. 2) [[Distance->distance]] yourself from him. 3) Invest your time elsewhere, like with [[hobbies->hobbies]] and other friendships.

[[ < ->start]] Why We Feel Unrequited Love If you're reading this, you're probably currently pining over somebody who doesn't feel the same way for you. But have you stopped to think about why you're feeling this way? Consider this: if you were to actually date this person, it would probably be as average as all of your other relationships. You're in love with what is, in actuality, a [[deeply flawed->flaws]] human being, and your lack of mutual romance with them only makes your feelings more intense because of the lack of closure. You don't have the opportunity to see them as they are in a relationship, so your mind is free to imagine them in the best possible light, devoid of any evidence of flaws or incompatibility. You only pedastalize this human because you're forever stuck in the [[honeymoon->honey]] phase of the crush, unable to actualize it to the very difficult thing that real love is. This cycle of bliss and pain is self-perpetuating, and the reason why unrequited love is so [[painful->pain]].

((i try to focus on [[his->deep]] flaws and i still mostly see good))

((it doesn't feel like honeymoon anymore; my feelings for [[him->deep]] are too heavy))

[[ < ->start]] Forums user123: do i tell him? anon456: no, dont [[burden->lie]] him with your feelings someguy678: yes, dont [[burden->truth]] him with a lie! anotherguy737: friendships are built on [[trust->trust]] anotherguy737: it'll be bad for your friendship user123: telling him or not telling him? anotherguy737: [[yes->yes]]

((am i a burden to [[him->forum]]? is he happier in ignorance?))

((or does [[he->forum]] know and want to ignore it?))

((i promise this is the only secret i'll ever keep from [[him->forum]]))

((trust that i would tell [[him->forum]] if i had feelings, or not get them in the first place?))

((i would let go of [[him->deep]] if i could, but i'm in too deep))